So you avoid threats

we all know this: your kindergartner is doing something that it should not, over and over again. Until you finally freak out and threaten that ""it can happen at once,"" that you ""lock it in his room,"" that the birthday party fails, or something similar. This is not a good idea.

Tell your child exactly what you want from him. An example: ""I want you to stay in bed after the good night kiss"". This is better than threatening: ""When you get up again, there is really trouble! ""To avoid some struggles at bedtime.

A special case is the topic of food: your child can decide if and how much it wants to eat. They are only responsible for when the meals take place, what is on the table and what rules apply at table. When eating, you just have to remind your child, ""Dinner is now. After that, there is nothing left, remember! "". This is not a threat, but a clear message. When you do that, keep in mind that you actually stay consistent and do not allow sweets later.

Often it is helpful to let the child choose between two options: ""It's time to go to bed. What do you do first, brush your teeth or put on your pajamas? ""This motivates the child to work together rather than the announcement:"" No brushing no bedtime story "".

Another option is to give the child a task, for example in the supermarket: ""Will you help me find the cornflakes you like most? ""Then your child has an interesting job and does not need to be warned about the consequences of running around in the supermarket.

Another example: If your child is puffing, say, ""I'd like to listen to you, but I can only understand your normal voice."" That's how you signal that you're interested in what your child says, but The sound can not accept the tone, and that too can make a punishable threat superfluous.

One final example: Your child screams in the car, ignoring her request to keep quiet, a threat that might sound like, ""If you keep yelling, you get really trouble at home! ""It would be better:"" I can not drive when you scream, unfortunately I have to stop until you have calmed down. ""So your child learns to take responsibility for his own behavior and from the To learn consequences (of course only if you stay consistent and actually stop if your child keeps yelling).

By no means do you forget to praise your child when it comes to your suggestions and announcements. It teaches that cooperation is a good thing.

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