Why does my child have so many fears at night? Night fears - of the dark, monsters under the bed, and being alone in bed - are common among two- to four-year-olds. These are the years when the imagination of your child explodes. This means that it can not only imagine beautiful, but also very scary things - even if they are not real.Spend more of the day delving into imaginative games of dragons, dinosaurs, and the battle of good versus evil. In the evenings, it's hard for the child to shut down his fantasy and fall asleep. Even familiar things that were never frightening before, such as his darkened room, suddenly seem to be scary. And since your little darling is still learning to differentiate fantasy from reality, the possibility of invisible creatures under his bed seems quite real to him.
Nocturnal fears - of the darkness, of separation from parents, of noise, of evil people - are a normal stage of development that lasts much longer than parents suspect. They begin around the age of two and last until the age of eight or nine. As well as having a vivid imagination, kindergarten children begin to understand that there are things (and people) in the world that can hurt them.
In the years to come, your job will be to help your child understand the difference between a real danger (assuming a ride-on from a stranger) and a perceived danger (the witch hiding in the closet).
How can I help my child overcome his nocturnal fears?
You may not be able to help him get rid of his fears at once (as this is mostly a phase that will outgrow it). But you can do a lot to cope with your fears and fall asleep more easily.In the final hours before going to sleep, entertain your child with happy, non-violent stories or short, harmless videos (you've undoubtedly realized how dark some fairy tales and cartoons can be).
In the evenings, you should introduce a quiet routine that you can apply every night - for example, a warm bath, a nice story, and a quiet song. There are even books that can cure it of its fears.Try
The Little Owl by Jill Tomlinson. One or two night lights may also give your child the feeling of more security. It can also help if you leave the door open a bit, play stories or children's songs and encourage your child to sleep with a favorite toy or a blanket.
If your child still has a brother or sister, let them both sleep in a room. This can help to make the nocturnal fears disappear as quickly as they came.