Why do kids wake up at nightWhy does my child sleep at night? not through? That's a question that many overworked parents have been thinking about. You may be surprised to learn that no child - and by the way no adult - really sleeps through the night. Waking up at night is a normal part of our sleep cycles, but most people fall asleep without any problems.
Many small and kindergarten children still need to learn this skill. In other words, if your child is expecting you - or any other help to fall asleep - you may find it difficult to fall asleep when it wakes up at night.
Of course, even the best sleepers are not immune to nocturnal disturbances. Frequent childhood and preschool fears, such as stories about monsters, ghosts and other things, can turn good sleepers into restless ones. Even nightmares, which peak at the age of three to six, can cause regular wanderings in your bedroom. Likewise, any departure from your child's normal routine-a vacation, a sickness, or even a change in bedtime-can confuse normal sleep patterns.
How to deal with the nightly visits?It's 3 o'clock in the night and you are sleeping soundly. Suddenly you feel a push, a cuff and another nudge. In front of you is your child, who looks quite lost, and speaks these words that are only too familiar: ""Mommy, I'm scared!"" Sometimes a little dwarf is standing there as well, frantically stuffing his scarf.
If you and her Partners do not mind a family bed - or even an occasional nocturnal cuddle - do it all right if you give in to your child's wishes, which is probably just one stage and one day or night the nocturnal visits stop on their own.
But if you want to prevent regular moves to your bed, perhaps because you sleep very badly and have to get up very early in the morning, then you should consider how to handle it.
Here are a few ways:
Slowly remove sleep aids
As bedtime approaches, many 3 and 4-year-old children have difficulty, without the comfort of a pacifier, a cuddly toy, a special lullaby, or your per- son to fall asleep. The problem: If your child wakes up and does not find this sleep aid, it can be difficult to fall asleep again.The solution: Gradually and carefully remove any sleep aids that your child can not reach alone at night.
When you put your child to bed, leave your bedroom exactly as it will be at night. If you plan to turn off the light in the hallway when you go to bed, make it the same. Gentle music is good - provided it can be heard all night long. Whatever the bedtime routine, it is imperative that you leave the room before your child falls asleep. Otherwise, it wakes up at night and wonders why you are no longer there. Remember, this is a long and difficult process. Success does not happen overnight (and not for a few nights), so you should be patient.
Develop a plan and stick to it. At 3 in the morning, it is easy to be softened by the pleas of his child, no matter how much you are against ""sleeping together,"" but if he succeeds in pushing in once or twice a week, he will certainly try again Therefore, you should get up, accompany him back to his room, give him a good night kiss, and leave the room. Be prepared to repeat this routine over and over again - and the next morning If your child is ill or has a particularly bad dream, you can decide whether to make an exception or if you might sleep in your child's room instead.
It's for a kindergartner is perfectly normal, afraid of the dark, so give in to his wishes and let the hall light burn or install a night light - if it's a monster, poltergeist , Extraterrestrial or other supernatural things that are troubling, do a search for monsters in the evening. Look under the bed, in the closet and wherever ghosts might be hiding, and assure your child that there are not really any monsters and ghosts inside the house.
Rewards can be very helpful in getting a reluctant child to submit to the evening routine. Some parents disapprove of this method because they feel they bribe their children. But it is hard work for a child to learn to stay in their own bed, and it is acceptable to reward them for their efforts. Give your child a sticker for every evening he stays in bed. If it has four or five stickers together, let it pick a special reward, such as a coloring book or an outing.
Reserve Time to Cuddle
Many kids stay in their room as long as they know that cuddling is part of the morning routine.Since your child probably does not know the clock yet, tell him that it can come when the sky is light (if that's a decent time for you). If it is a little older, you can stick a piece of paper on the minutes of the clock and draw in the agreed time to wake up with a pen. If the two numbers match, your child knows that it can come to you. An alarm clock can also be helpful.
Think about whether you want to share your bedroom, but not the bed with your child. Put the cot in your room and let your sweetheart sleep there. A good compromise may also be the introduction of special nights in which your child may sleep with you - for example once a week at the weekend.